There’s no denying it: everyone wants to last longer in bed. It’s a common concern for men and can be a source of frustration and anxiety. But the good news is that there are things you can do to improve your stamina and increase the length of your bedroom sessions.
First and foremost, it’s important to understand that there is no “normal” amount of time to last in bed. Different people have different preferences and needs, and what’s most important is that both partners feel satisfied and fulfilled.
That being said, here is our gigantic list of 29 ways to last longer in bed for men.
#1: Practice Pelvic Floor Exercises (Kegels)
Strong pelvic floor muscles can go a long way in helping you last longer in bed. These muscles control ejaculation, so by strengthening them, you can improve your control over when you ejaculate. Plus, stronger pelvic floor muscles can also lead to stronger erections and more intense orgasms.
To do Kegels, simply contract the muscles you use to stop urinating, hold for a few seconds, and then relax. You can do this exercise anywhere, anytime – just be sure to keep it discreet! Over time, regularly performing Kegels can help to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can improve ejaculatory control.
#2: Try the “Squeeze” Technique
The squeeze technique is a simple and effective way to help you last longer in bed. It involves stopping sexual activity just before ejaculation and then applying gentle pressure to the head of the penis to delay the ejaculatory response. You or your partner can gently squeeze the head of the penis until the urge to ejaculate subsides, and then start sexual activity again. This technique can be repeated as needed and can help to improve control over ejaculation.
#3: Use a Desensitizing Cream or Spray
If you find that you’re particularly sensitive and tend to ejaculate quickly, using a desensitizing cream or spray on the penis before sexual activity may be helpful. These products sometimes called premature ejaculation sprays work by numbing the sensation in the penis, which can help to increase the duration of sexual activity. Just be aware that these products can also reduce pleasure for both partners, so it’s important to discuss their use with your partner.
#4: Practice Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques
If you’re finding that stress and anxiety are causing you to finish too soon, practicing mindfulness and relaxation techniques may be helpful. These techniques involve focusing on the present moment and letting go of distractions and worries, which can help to calm the mind and improve overall well-being. Some techniques you might try include deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or even just taking a few minutes to clear your mind and focus on your breath.
#5: Make Lifestyle Changes
Certain lifestyle factors, such as smoking, excessive alcohol consumption, and a lack of exercise, can all contribute to premature ejaculation. Making healthy changes to your lifestyle, such as quitting smoking, reducing alcohol intake, and increasing physical activity can help to improve your overall health and sexual performance. These changes can also have numerous other health benefits, such as improving cardiovascular health and increasing energy levels.
#6: Consider Herbal Remedies
If you’re interested in a more natural approach, some herbs, such as ginseng and saffron, have been traditionally used to treat sexual dysfunction and may help to delay ejaculation. However, it’s important to note that there is limited scientific evidence to support the use of these remedies and it’s important to speak to a healthcare provider before trying any new treatment. Herbs can also interact with other medications and have potential side effects, so it’s important to be cautious when using them.
#7: Try the “Stop-Start” Technique
The stop-start technique involves stopping sexual activity just before ejaculation and then waiting for the urge to pass before starting again. This can be done by you or your partner and can be repeated as needed. This technique can help to build up control over ejaculation and increase the duration of sexual activity.
#8: Practice Edging
Edging involves bringing yourself to the brink of ejaculation, and then stopping all sexual activity until the urge to ejaculate subsides. This can be done by you or your partner and can be repeated as needed. Practicing edging can help to improve ejaculatory control and increase the duration of sexual activity.
#9: Use a Thicker Condom
Using a thicker condom can help to reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation. These condoms are generally made of thicker latex or polyurethane and can provide a barrier between the penis and the vagina, reducing sensation and helping to delay ejaculation. Just be aware that these condoms may also reduce pleasure for both partners, so it’s important to discuss their use with your partner.
#10: Use a Condom with a Desensitizing Agent
Some condoms are formulated with a desensitizing agent, such as benzocaine, which can help to reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation. These condoms can be applied to the penis before sexual activity and can provide a barrier between the penis and the vagina, reducing sensation and helping to delay ejaculation. Just be aware that these condoms may also reduce pleasure for both partners, so it’s important to discuss their use with your partner.
#11: Practice Sensate Focus Exercises
Sensate focus exercises involve focusing on non-genital touch and intimacy with a partner, rather than focusing on ejaculation. These exercises can be done with a partner and involve taking turns touching each other in a non-sexual way, gradually building up to more intimate touch. Sensate focus exercises can help to improve communication and intimacy in the relationship, and may also improve ejaculatory control.
#12: Take a Daily Supplement
Some supplements, such as D-aspartic acid and fenugreek, have been shown to improve sexual function and may help to delay ejaculation. However, it’s important to note that there is limited scientific evidence to support the use of these supplements and it’s important to speak to a healthcare provider before taking any new supplements. Supplements can also interact with other medications and have potential side effects, so it’s important to be cautious when using them.
#13: Change Your Thinking
By making some quick and simple mindset changes you can make some easy gains in your lasting time. These are a must if you are serious about lasting longer in bed. I explain how to change your thinking in more detail over in my article on how to last longer in bed naturally.
#14: Use the “Hyper-focus” Technique
When you feel close to ejaculating, hyper-focus your thinking so that you are only focusing on your partner. Focus on the little things such as her hair and the feel of her skin. As soon as your imagination starts to shift its focus brings it right back onto the purely physical things you are feeling.
#15: Try Using a “Penis Ring”
A penis ring is a small, stretchy ring that is worn around the base of the penis during sexual activity. The ring restricts blood flow and can help to delay ejaculation. Just be sure to follow the instructions for use and remove the ring after a short period of time to avoid any potential problems. Penis rings can be a fun and effective way to help you last longer in bed.
#16: Try the “Edging” Technique
Edging is like a game of sexual “chicken” – bring yourself close to ejaculating, then stop all sexual activity until the urge subsides, and repeat as needed. This technique can help you build up control over ejaculation and extend the duration of sexual activity. Just be sure to communicate with your partner about what you’re doing, and don’t push yourself too hard – it’s all about finding a balance.
#17: Experiment with Different Sexual Positions
Certain sexual positions may be more stimulating for you, which can make it harder to last as long as you’d like. Experimenting with different positions can help you find ones that are less stimulating and allow you to last longer. Some positions that may be less stimulating include the missionary position, the woman-on-top position, and the spooning position.
#18: Practice Slow, Controlled Thrusting
During sexual activity, try slowing down your thrusting and focusing on making each thrust deliberate and controlled. This can help you last longer and also increase pleasure for both partners. Just be sure to communicate with your partner about what you’re doing, and don’t be afraid to ask for feedback. With a little practice, you’ll be a slow-thrusting pro in no time!
#19: Take Breaks During Sexual Activity
Sometimes, all you need is a little time to cool down and regroup. During sexual activity, try taking breaks to give yourself a chance to catch your breath and regain control. You can take breaks in any way that feels comfortable for you and your partner – for example, you could switch positions, take a break to kiss or cuddle, or even just take a few deep breaths.
#21: Get a Grip (Literally)
During sexual activity, try squeezing the base of the penis with your thumb and forefinger. This can help to delay ejaculation by restricting blood flow and reducing sensitivity. Just be sure to communicate with your partner about what you’re doing, and don’t squeeze too hard – we don’t want any accidental injury!
#22: Try a Different Condom
If you’re using a standard-sized condom, switching to a larger size might help you last longer. A larger condom can provide a looser fit, which can reduce sensitivity and help you last longer. Just be sure to follow the instructions for use and use a condom that is appropriate for your size.
#23: Get in the Zone
If you’re finding that you’re finishing too soon, try getting in the zone by focusing on your own pleasure and putting aside any distractions or worries. By focusing on your own sensations and pleasure, you can help to increase your control over ejaculation and extend the duration of sexual activity. Just be sure to communicate with your partner about what you’re doing and make sure you’re both having a good time.
#24: Take It Slow and Easy
If you’re feeling rushed or pressured during sexual activity, it can be harder to last as long as you’d like. By taking it slow and easy, you can help to reduce anxiety and improve control over ejaculation. Try setting a leisurely pace and taking breaks to kiss, cuddle, or just enjoy each other’s company. This can help you last longer and also increase intimacy and pleasure for both partners.
#25: Try a Different Lubricant
If you’re finding that you’re finishing too soon, switching to a different lubricant might help. Some lubricants are formulated with ingredients that can help to reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation. Just be sure to read the label carefully and choose a lubricant that is appropriate for your needs.
#26: Get a Leg Up (or Two)
During sexual activity, try raising your partner’s legs up, either by supporting them on your shoulders or by using a pillow or other prop. This can help to reduce the angle of penetration and make it easier for you to last longer. Just be sure to communicate with your partner about what you’re doing and make sure you’re both comfortable. This simple technique can help you last longer and also add a little variety to your sex life.
#27: Get a Little Help from Your Friends (or Rather, Your Fingers)
During sexual activity, try using your fingers to stimulate your partner’s erogenous zones while you’re waiting for the urge to ejaculate to pass. This can help to reduce sensitivity and delay ejaculation, and it can also be a lot of fun! Just be sure to communicate with your partner about what you’re doing and make sure you’re both having a good time. With a little practice, you’ll be a pro at using your fingers to help you last longer in bed.
#28: Get on Top of Things (Literally)
If you’re finding that you’re finishing too soon, try switching to the woman-on-top position during sexual activity. This position can help to reduce the angle of penetration and make it easier for you to last longer. Just be sure to communicate with your partner about what you’re doing and make sure you’re both comfortable. This simple technique can help you last longer and also add a little variety to your sex life.
#29: Experiment with Different Strokes
During sexual activity, try experimenting with different strokes to find ones that are less stimulating and allow you to last longer. Some strokes that may be less stimulating include longer, slower strokes and strokes that focus on the base of the penis rather than the tip. Just be sure to communicate with your partner about what you’re doing and make sure you’re both having a good time. With a little practice, you’ll be a master of different strokes and able to last longer in bed.
Well, there you have it – 29 fun ways to help you last longer in bed! Whether you’re looking for a natural remedy, a change in technique, or a little help from your friends (or rather, your fingers), there’s something on this list for you.
Remember, premature ejaculation is a treatable condition and seeking help from a healthcare provider is important. These home remedies can be a useful addition to medical treatment, but it’s important to remember that they may not work for everyone and that individual results may vary.
It’s also important to communicate with your partner and address any underlying issues that may be contributing to premature ejaculation. With the right treatment and support, you can take control of your ejaculation and enhance your sexual satisfaction. Happy (and long-lasting) experimenting!
