Let’s look at the 7 key skills you’ll need to last longer in bed and how you will use them to rapidly build sexual stamina. Today you’ll learn everything you’ll need to go from near zero to 20 plus minutes every time.
If you have a hard time lasting in bed this is going to be a game-changer for you. Here’s everything I’ll be showing you today.
7 Ways To Make Sex Last Longer
- Breathing To Last Longer In Bed Naturally
- How To Control your PC muscle – and never ejaculate too soon
- Mental changes to make sex last longer
- Last longer in bed exercises that will give you 20 extra minutes
- How to stay in control during hard sex
- Techniques and positions to last longer during sex without pills (important)
- How to cool your system fast before reaching the point of no return (PONR)
But before we get started you need to understand this one thing…
If you’re like most guys who can’t last in bed you probably think there’s something wrong with you. That you are abnormal or have a weird condition.
If you are thinking like this you need to stop it right now. Because this isn’t the case. In fact, you are completely normal.
The only difference between you and the next guy is that you haven’t developed the skills to control your sexual responses. All men can learn these skills, including you!
We’ve got a lot to cover today, so let’s get started.
7 Key Skills To Last 20 Minutes Longer In Bed Naturally
I teach all of the following ways to stop premature ejaculation as part of my Beyond Delay training program. But this will help you whether you intend to use the program or not. All that matters is that you understand you are not stuck with this problem and you should never accept it.
One of the quickest and easiest ways to increase your lasting time is to breathe correctly before and during intercourse. Most guys with premature ejaculation get this dead wrong and it will sabotage your efforts to make it through the all-important first two minutes of sex.
There’s a lot more to it than just taking deep breaths, but it’s easy to learn the correct breathing techniques once you know what to focus on.
Unlike some of the more advanced methods you’ll learn, (which can take a few weeks to master) you will pick this up within an hour. This means it will help you last longer tonight.
How To Breathe During Sex
- Cycle your breathing – keep it consistent
- Avoid Shallow breathing
- Breath in through your nose for 8 seconds
- Breath out through your mouth for 10-12 seconds
- Learn to breath without clenching your muscles (most guys make this mistake)
- Visualize tension leaving your body each breath out
Once you’re breathing the right way, you can turn it up a notch with more advanced relaxation and meditative techniques that will put you in a Zen-like state of confidence at the flick of a switch.
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself “What physically causes me to ejaculate?” If you’re like most guys I coach how to last longer in bed, your answer will be a resounding “No”.
It all comes down to one simple muscle. And get this, when this muscle is relaxed, it’s physically impossible to ejaculate. It’s called the pubococcygeus or PC muscle and is responsible for releasing semen during your ejaculation.
So your goal is to keep your PC muscle relaxed during sex. Now, this isn’t as easy as it sounds, because this muscle is one of the most difficult in the body to control, but it can be done with specific exercises.
How To Control Your PC Muscle During Sex
- Learn to locate and recognize your PC muscle
- Focus on control, not strength (they are very different things)
- Stop subconsciously tensing your PC muscle (Most guys do this without realizing it)
- Remain focused on surrounding muscles
- Learn to push tension out of your PC muscle
- Complete advanced exercises to relax your PC Muscle on call
It will take 2- 4 weeks to get this right and it is one of the more advanced skills you will develop. But once this clicks into place, you’ll understand why it’s such a key skill. It will allow you to take complete control of your ejaculation, so you will decide exactly when you are ready to finish every time. It’s a great feeling.
3. How To Think About Sex And During It
Premature ejaculation was often entirely blamed on mental issues, and men who couldn’t last in bed were prescribed sessions on the couch with psychiatrists or even hypnotherapy. As you might guess, this didn’t work very well, and you have to feel for guys in those days who didn’t have access to the type of modern science-based training methods that I am now showing you.
We know that premature ejaculation is primarily physical, but that doesn’t mean that the mental side of it isn’t important. It is. Because the way you manage your thoughts, focus, and confidence levels during intercourse, can sabotage your efforts to last longer in bed when not kept in check.
Mental Tips To Last Longer
- Learn all the physical skills of ejaculation control – This is the only way to develop true confidence
- Remember that sex is just an activity
- Focus on physical things – the touch of your partner’s skin, your breathing,
- Learn my instant cool down methods so you always have a fallback
- Readjust the way you think about the opposite sex, woman share 99.9 percent of your DNA. They are not a different species.
- Remember that your partner is just another person who almost certainly has her own set of anxieties.
- Never believe that this problem is a part of you or something you are stuck with. Trust me, it’s not.
- Know that you will succeed if you do everything you learn on this page. It is impossible not to last longer if you follow these steps. If you fail to last at first, use this as motivation to keep working.
The Beyond Delay philosophy is to teach guys a set of practical ways to control their thoughts during sex. While these techniques are a piece of cake to learn and start using, when they really come into their own is when you start combining them with the physical skills I teach, because at the end of the day nothing is going to create mental confidence in yourself like knowing you have up your sleeve, the physical skills, techniques and ability to perform every time.
And remember, this isn’t about correcting some deep-rooted psychological abnormality lurking at the back of your mind, because I can tell you now, that is not the case. In fact, all guys, whether they suffer from premature ejaculation or not can benefit from learning how to regulate thoughts, perceptions, and confidence levels during sex.
It may not seem like it right now, but your body is actually on your side. It wants you to be able to last longer in bed which is why it sends you a range of subtle signals. The problem is that most guys are completely oblivious to them and let the messages go straight through to the catcher.
It’s not difficult to learn how to read these messages your sexual response system is sending you and once you can, you’ll realize how easy it can be to make a small change that can shut problems down right at the source before they have the chance to influence the ejaculatory muscles.
With a few weeks of practice, you’ll find yourself getting really good at this and you’ll understand in an instant when to implement the right control technique or cool down method.
5. Getting yourself in the zone ( It’s the key to maintaining control during hard, pounding sessions)
When I first explain this next skill most guys don’t get it. But once they begin to understand how this helps everything “click” into place they quickly realize that it’s the single most powerful skill you can develop to remove that anxiousness of thinking about the clock and putting yourself right into the moment so you can enjoy every bit of it.
You see most guys (and even a few so-called experts) who don’t really understand how your sexual response system works will often tell you to try to distract yourself during intercourse. As I explain in my Beyond Delay program this is the worst thing you can do and what you really need to be doing the exact opposite.
By taking your thoughts away from just your genitals and your perceived sensation on them and transferring them to your whole body experience you will relax and get into that “lost in the moment” type state. This might all sound a bit new age and wishy-washy but trust me it’s not. It’s really easy to put yourself into this state with a few simple tricks and once you realize how much better sex can be, there will be no going back.
If you’re one of the guys who assume that sensitivity is the cause of your lasting difficulties, this method will show you why that’s not the case.
And if that’s not enough to make you want to learn this skill then I’m sure what I have to say next will….
This method is also the key to maintaining control during those deep, hard, and pounding love-making sessions, so they’ll be none of that slowly poking away business that you are probably forced to settle for now.
You will be surprised at how much of an impact various positions can have on your ability to last in bed and there is a very good reason for this. While every guy is different, as a rule, the positions that will cause you to ejaculate sooner are ones that require you to tense muscles in a few specific areas. What I show guys is exactly which positions cause problems and how you can make a few small changes in technique to correct this. The full position guide is available in my Beyond Delay program, but for the guys who will miss out here are a few pointers to get you started.
Sexual Positions And Techniques
- Focus on grinding more and thrusting less
- Use positions that don’t require you to flex your core muscles (such as woman on top, side by side
- Move your body in flowing motions and don’t just stab away with your groin
- Use your elbows, legs, and back muscles to support your weight – and not your stomach or core muscles)
- Know where your partner’s “hot spots” are and know how to reach them
- Use your hands to touch your partner as much as possible – her back, her legs, her hair (Not just her breasts and bum)
After a few weeks of working on the other skills I have mentioned here you will reach a level where you can maintain control during any position and tempo. Having said that you will find that knowing a few of these positions is useful up until that point as it will allow you to keep a solid pace during sex without you needing to carry on with that stopping and starting business that women hate.
I’m sure you all recognize the feeling only too well. Your heart rate jumps, you feel your stomach muscles tense up and you realize you are fast approaching that dreaded point of no return, all too aware that there’s nothing you can do to stop it.
It’s for moments like these that knowing some instant cool-down methods is vital. What most guys don’t realize is that there’s a range of quick actions you can take that will cool your system down fast and they can all be learned in just a few minutes, meaning you can put them into action right away.
It’s also a great feeling knowing you have these “up your sleeve”, whether you use them or not, so you can just relax in the knowledge that no matter what happens you are prepared with an extra line of defense. As I tell the guys I coach – “Don’t even think about getting into bed without having these in your bag of tricks”.
Putting it into action
It’s hard to find helpful and accurate advice online regarding how to last longer in bed. It seems everywhere you look someone is repeating old-fashioned myths, giving incorrect advice, or trying to scam you into buying quick-fix products such as pills, drugs, sprays, or creams that don’t work.
I hope that reading this has shown you that there is a better way and that this problem is completely fixable if you are willing to put in a small amount of effort and work towards learning all of these skills. While I can’t promise to fix this problem overnight (it usually takes 30 days to achieve full control), you can make some improvements and put them into action right now.
For those of you wanting to learn more, I explain all of these skills in detail and exactly how you can last longer in bed naturally in my Beyond Delay Program course which now available as an instant download.
Or, if you have any comments, questions, or are unsure about the skills outlined above and how they work, you can get in touch with me here.
Good luck with it,
ps. If you are the decisive type and want to get started straight away you can download the Beyond Delay training course in PDF format right here. Remember – the sooner you start, the sooner you can be free of premature ejaculation for good.